You’re Not Stuck - You’re Waiting for Permission.
“If you wait for permission, you’ll be waiting your whole life.”
– Unknown.
You say you’re stuck.
You say you’re confused.
You say the timing’s not right, the clarity’s not there, the offer’s not ready.
But here’s the truth:
You’re not stuck. You’re waiting.
Waiting for a sign.
Waiting for certainty.
Waiting for conditions to align.
Waiting for someone to come along and say:
“You’re allowed to want this.”
“You’re ready now.”
“You can go.”
But no one’s coming.
No one’s going to knock on your door with a scroll and a sword and declare you chosen.
There is no certification.
There is no throne to be handed down.
There is no permission slip for your own life.
You either claim it, or you stay stuck.
The Addiction to Approval
Men like us - driven, focused, awake - still carry the disease of permission.
We were raised in classrooms and systems that rewarded compliance.
We were praised for being “good,” for waiting our turn, for asking before we moved.
So we grew up smart.
Disciplined.
Strategic.
But underneath all that?
We’re still boys waiting for the nod.
From the father who never gave it.
From the mentor who sees us.
From the marketplace. The audience. The algorithm. The woman. The world.
And until we get it, we stall.
Not because we’re lazy.
Because we’ve been conditioned to believe that taking initiative without approval is a threat.
But it’s not.
It’s freedom.
What Permission Really Means
Permission is ownership.
It means this is mine now.
This vision. This direction. This calling.
Not inherited. Not assigned. Chosen.
And choosing is risky.
Because now it’s your fault if it fails.
Your responsibility if it works.
No one to blame.
No one to hide behind.
But that’s also the power.
Because a man who gives himself permission?
Moves without apology.
Speaks without rehearsing.
Builds what doesn’t exist yet.
Leads even when no one claps.
He doesn’t wait to be validated.
He validates his own direction - with action.
The Turning Point: Give Yourself the Goddamn Green Light
You don’t need to be more ready.
You don’t need to finish another course.
You don’t need more evidence, proof, likes, or clarity.
You need to look in the mirror and say:
“I’m not waiting anymore.”
And mean it.
That one sentence?
It will shake the entire foundation of your life.
Because underneath every excuse you’ve been feeding yourself…
Is a man who already knows what to do.
The Task: Grant the Permission You’ve Been Waiting For
This week, we stop asking. We start owning.
Real-World Task
Name the Thing
What have you been delaying because you’re “not ready” or “not sure” or “still figuring it out”?
Write:
“I’ve been waiting for permission to…”Write the Permission Slip
Literally. On paper.
“I, [Your Name], give myself full permission to [Do the Thing]. I no longer outsource this. It’s mine now.”
Take the First Action Without Telling Anyone
Not to perform. Not to impress.
Just to prove to yourself that you don’t need the green light.
You are the green light.
Reflective Exercise
Each night this week, ask:
“Where did I wait today - and where did I move without waiting?”
Track the shift.
Even one bold move begins to reprogram the man inside you.
Reading List
The Art of Possibility – Rosamund & Benjamin Zander
For learning how to choose a reality, rather than wait for it.Big Magic – Elizabeth Gilbert
A creative and spiritual take on giving yourself full permission to express.Do the Work – Steven Pressfield
Short, sharp, and cuts straight through waiting and resistance.Permission to Screw Up – Kristen Hadeed
A business memoir that shows you don’t need to be perfect to start.The War of Art – Steven Pressfield (again)
Because it bears repeating: resistance dies when action begins.
Here’s your choice:
Keep calling it stuckness.
Keep waiting for someone else to make you brave.
Or get up.
Take the throne.
And say:
“This is mine now.”
Because the moment you stop waiting for permission?
The world starts moving.
